Toxic Shame (and Why It’s So Hard to Heal)

by garadsteinfeld | Jun 11, 2022 | Uncategorized

Shame in and of itself is not “bad”. It’s “toxic shame” that wreaks havoc on our souls, our self-esteem, our relationships, and our behaviors. Healthy shame reminds us of our shared humanity, of our humanness, that we are perfectly...

The Lesser Known Abandonment (and symptoms of the abandonment wound)

by garadsteinfeld | Jun 10, 2022 | Uncategorized

The abandonment wound shows up as a deep thirst for connection and a deep fear that we will be left.What comes to mind when you imagine abandonment?I used to think abandonment was being left on a doorstep by your parents never to be seen again or having one parent...

Science of love, sex, attraction and obsession (my trauma informed 2 cents)

by garadsteinfeld | Jun 8, 2022 | Uncategorized

The science of sex, love, attraction, and obsessionI am a huge fan of this video! The information can help us understand ourselves better, how we show up in relationships and can be used to be intentional about building genuine long lasting love, rather than lust or...

Let’s Talk About Sex (And The Dangers of Not Talking About Sex)

by garadsteinfeld | Apr 20, 2022 | Uncategorized

In this post, we are going to talk about sex. Specifically what are the characteristics of healthy sexuality and of unhealthy (or addictive) sexuality We are also going to talk about what can happen when sex is not talked about growing up. I invite you to...

Did I Experience Childhood Abuse Or Trauma ? And Why This question Isn’t About Your Parents. It’s About You

by garadsteinfeld | Apr 18, 2022 | Uncategorized

I have worked with so many people who begin therapy by stating “I had a perfect childhood” and yet they are exhibiting symptoms of trauma and abuse. Immediately my attention is drawn to the word “perfect”. If you stick around and hear me talk about Pia Mellody long...